Lets talk about the phrase “committed suicide.” It’s the most common phrase people use when talking to me about suicide. But why do we say “committed?” It’s not a sin. You are not sent straight to hell. I did a super scientific (jk 🤓) poll on my Instagram the other day and 76% of 118 people said that they had been taught these things at some point in their life. As a leader of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Elder Renlund) says, “There is an old sectarian notion that suicide is a sin and that someone who commits suicide is banished to hell forever. That is totally false. I believe the vast majority of cases will find that these individuals have lived heroic lives and that suicide will not be a defining characteristic of their eternities.” No matter what belief system you have, we have to get rid of this idea that suicide is selfish. It’s still not the RIGHT thing to do, right? We would take Denny back over anything and wish so so so deeply that he didn’t make this choice. But if anyone thinks he was selfish in this decision, tell me. Be open with me about it. I’ll explain to you how that is absolutely false. I’m still making it through the 100s of amazing messages I’ve received, but I promise I’ll get to yours eventually and I’ll help you understand. In Denny’s mind, it was the most unselfish and loving and protective thing he could do for his family. I know, it doesn’t make sense to anyone rational. But that’s what depression does to your brain. That’s why we have to talk about it and we have to help anyone we can. Just my thoughts on the “committed” thing… it doesn’t offend me at all. It’s just a common phrase. I avoid it but have accidentally said it a few times too. But next time you say that or hear it from someone else, kindly correct them. “Death by suicide,” “took his own life,” or anything like that would be a better alternative. I think getting rid of that phrase could help change people’s mindset about suicide. Tell me your thoughts and opinions on this and please share! ❤️❤️❤️

2 thoughts on “Committed

  1. Please don’t stop writing, I ran across your posts tonight for the last 3 hours I’ve been reading and I have found so much comfort in this. I pray for you all!

  2. You are right “Death by suicide” or “Died by suicide” is right way to speak of what happened. When death occurs by suicide no one “committed” a crime. Thank you for speaking about your daily life and the struggles you are facing. I am using your words to show how suicide affects everyone that knows the person that dies by suicide to others.

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